Lucky People Choose their Beliefs Wisely
We all have beliefs but it is the fortunate amongst us that realise we have a choice about what to believe.
Our survival depends on the beliefs we use to interpret our existence and interaction with our environment. Most of us learn to adopt beliefs that will protect us from harm physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. Based on the survival mechanism which warns us to avoid pain and attract pleasure, we tend to refrain from harbouring beliefs that cause us pain and we embrace beliefs that give us pleasure.
Can you remember the first belief that you articulated in your life? It was probably soon after you started to formulate ideas about the world in which you found yourself as a small child. Beliefs are ideas supported by evidence that gives them validity. This evidence may be your own personal experience or the experience of people that you trust (either because you love them or because they are credible authorities). Thus, our childhood beliefs are shaped by our family, friends, teachers and information that we absorb from our environment. In adulthood, our beliefs are shaped by our complex interpretation of the information we absorb through interaction and communication with our environment. We determine our own rules about whether to believe something or not. For example, lawyers need much more factual evidence to support a belief than psychics who rely on intuition. If you consider your most important beliefs; beliefs that support your existence and survival, what evidence do you have to uphold these beliefs? Is your evidence based on personal experiences; the influence of education you have received; your intuition; your faith? Are there beliefs that you hold dearly that have no evidence whatsoever to support them?
Lucky people often express beliefs that have no evidence to support them. There are countless stories of people that have miraculously survived circumstances, beyond belief. They experienced an extraordinary reality; a reality without logical or rational evidence to support it. For example, a child may dream of going to university even though there is not a single member of their family that can read or write. Although the available evidence suggests that their goal is impossible, they hold on to their belief, supported only by their own intangible faith. The cherished belief gives them tremendous pleasure and enables them to overcome painful obstacles until they accomplish the goal they believed in despite the odds.
Whatever we choose to believe, we will always find evidence to prove that we or those that we love and respect, are right. Psychologists call this phenomenon a “self-fulfilling prophecy”. If we believe we are lucky, we will create supporting situations; on the other hand, if we believe we are unlucky, we will interpret events to highlight all that is unfavourable, hence confirming the accuracy of our judgment.
Our beliefs have an impact on our behaviour, our emotions and our well-being in general. If we believe that life is dangerous, we will behave pessimistically, our actions being driven by fear. If we believe that we are lucky and fortunate, smiles will appear on our face effortlessly and there will be a bounce in our heels that stimulates our vitality and love of life. The response we receive to our manner of interaction provides lots of evidence that we are indeed very lucky. And the cycle continues.
Using the knowledge that beliefs are merely representations of the truth, not the absolute truth, lucky people are not attached rigidly to protecting their own beliefs. They are more committed to nurturing their values instead of beliefs. If the belief does not guide them to develop what they value in life, they discard it, like an inaccurate set of directions that fails to take them to the desired destination. For example, a traditional person with very strong family values will keep their family together by modifying or letting go of various beliefs in order to adapt to the new lifestyle of their younger generation. Moreover, wise, lucky people create new beliefs to strengthen their family relationships, filling their lives with priceless values. In contrast, unlucky people lose the closeness of their family members, hanging on miserably to their heartless, unrewarding beliefs, constantly expecting life to present evidence that supports their self-righteousness.
1. What kind of beliefs are steering your life?
2. Which of your beliefs supports your purpose in life?
3. Which of your beliefs are false, outdated or disempowering for you?
4. How often do you live life with an extraordinary expectancy of good fortune that is beyond belief?
References
Robbins, A. (1992) Awaken the Giant Within, Free Press
Wiseman, R. (2004) The Luck Factor, Arrow (Rand)
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© Jesvir Mahil 2010
Tuesday, January 12, 2010
Saturday, January 02, 2010
Lucky People Think Creatively
“A man is literally what he thinks, his character being the complete sum of all his thoughts.” James Allen
Lucky people think creatively and the quality of their thoughts and open-mindedness, attracts opportunities that they promptly notice because they anticipate lucky breaks. In contract, unlucky people fail to notice opportunities as they pass by, because they are too busy, caught up in their thoughts filled with worry, fear and self-pity.
It may seem rather simplistic or extreme to define a person and their luck as a measure of their thoughts. However, for over a hundred years, James Allen, author of ‘As a Man Thinketh’ (1902) has influenced the lives of millions around the world with his profound theory which in essence states that “what we think is what we are”. The implications of Allen’s assumptions are that we create our own luck in life and that the distinction between fortunate and unfortunate people is basically in the quality of their thoughts.
In his popular book ‘As a Man Thinketh’, James Allen explains the impact of our thoughts on our character, circumstances, health, purpose and achievements in life. How have your thoughts shaped your luck and life in these respects?
1. Character
Your character has probably evolved over the years as you moved from the stages of childhood to adulthood. Our emotions naturally change over the years and we learn to let go of thoughts that no longer serve us. When we go through painful or traumatic experiences, our character changes, for the better or worse, based on our thoughts and the meaning we assign to the situation. If, as James Allen suggests, our thoughts are like seeds, what have you been planting? What are the fruits of your character at this point in your life?
2.Circumstances
“Circumstance does not make the man; it reveals him to himself.” James Allen.
Lucky people tend to focus on solutions whereas unlucky people dwell on problems. In thinking creatively, lucky people know how to escape from adverse circumstances whereas unlucky people are unable or unwilling to envisage a way out. Stressful situations can force people to reveal themselves as they really are, without the masks they use to disguise their internal thoughts and character. How do you behave when the going gets tough? How authentic are you? How do you interpret the circumstances you find yourself in now?
3.Health & Body
People that place a high value on their health usually take good care of their bodies. This requires thoughtful consideration about what to eat; when to exercise; how to relax and how to revitalise our energy. Effective action to maintain health has to be preceded by effective thinking. How often do you reflect deeply about your health and take actions to nurture your body appropriately?
4. Achievement
Creative thinking and sustained effort is essential to complete the required process In order to achieve any worthwhile success. Whereas lucky people are persistent in taking actions towards their dreams and goals, unlucky people lazily expect their dreams to manifest without any action on their part. Even a very tiny action can cause an enormous effect.
What actions are you taking on a daily basis to create your dreams and achieve your goals in life?
5.Purpose
Those who live life without inspiring dreams that pull them forward with a strong sense of purpose about where they are going and how they need to use each day in order to get there, remain stagnant in the shadows of their worries, fears and petty challenges. Unlucky people focus on the minor trials and tribulations of life because they do not, instead, have a clear, desirable and exciting goal that they feel passionate about attaining. Fortunate, lucky people are driven by their dreams rather than held back by their petty concerns. What is your purpose in life? Is the attractive force of your purpose stronger than the debilitating force of your self-doubt and fears? How creatively can you achieve your purpose?
References
Allen, J. (1902) As a Man Thinketh
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/James_Allen_(author)
This blog is part of a book called "You’re So Lucky!" by Jesvir Mahil. To read more, subscribe to the free Success Newsletter )
Ms Jesvir Mahil
www.jesvir.com
London, UK
“A man is literally what he thinks, his character being the complete sum of all his thoughts.” James Allen
Lucky people think creatively and the quality of their thoughts and open-mindedness, attracts opportunities that they promptly notice because they anticipate lucky breaks. In contract, unlucky people fail to notice opportunities as they pass by, because they are too busy, caught up in their thoughts filled with worry, fear and self-pity.
It may seem rather simplistic or extreme to define a person and their luck as a measure of their thoughts. However, for over a hundred years, James Allen, author of ‘As a Man Thinketh’ (1902) has influenced the lives of millions around the world with his profound theory which in essence states that “what we think is what we are”. The implications of Allen’s assumptions are that we create our own luck in life and that the distinction between fortunate and unfortunate people is basically in the quality of their thoughts.
In his popular book ‘As a Man Thinketh’, James Allen explains the impact of our thoughts on our character, circumstances, health, purpose and achievements in life. How have your thoughts shaped your luck and life in these respects?
1. Character
Your character has probably evolved over the years as you moved from the stages of childhood to adulthood. Our emotions naturally change over the years and we learn to let go of thoughts that no longer serve us. When we go through painful or traumatic experiences, our character changes, for the better or worse, based on our thoughts and the meaning we assign to the situation. If, as James Allen suggests, our thoughts are like seeds, what have you been planting? What are the fruits of your character at this point in your life?
2.Circumstances
“Circumstance does not make the man; it reveals him to himself.” James Allen.
Lucky people tend to focus on solutions whereas unlucky people dwell on problems. In thinking creatively, lucky people know how to escape from adverse circumstances whereas unlucky people are unable or unwilling to envisage a way out. Stressful situations can force people to reveal themselves as they really are, without the masks they use to disguise their internal thoughts and character. How do you behave when the going gets tough? How authentic are you? How do you interpret the circumstances you find yourself in now?
3.Health & Body
People that place a high value on their health usually take good care of their bodies. This requires thoughtful consideration about what to eat; when to exercise; how to relax and how to revitalise our energy. Effective action to maintain health has to be preceded by effective thinking. How often do you reflect deeply about your health and take actions to nurture your body appropriately?
4. Achievement
Creative thinking and sustained effort is essential to complete the required process In order to achieve any worthwhile success. Whereas lucky people are persistent in taking actions towards their dreams and goals, unlucky people lazily expect their dreams to manifest without any action on their part. Even a very tiny action can cause an enormous effect.
What actions are you taking on a daily basis to create your dreams and achieve your goals in life?
5.Purpose
Those who live life without inspiring dreams that pull them forward with a strong sense of purpose about where they are going and how they need to use each day in order to get there, remain stagnant in the shadows of their worries, fears and petty challenges. Unlucky people focus on the minor trials and tribulations of life because they do not, instead, have a clear, desirable and exciting goal that they feel passionate about attaining. Fortunate, lucky people are driven by their dreams rather than held back by their petty concerns. What is your purpose in life? Is the attractive force of your purpose stronger than the debilitating force of your self-doubt and fears? How creatively can you achieve your purpose?
References
Allen, J. (1902) As a Man Thinketh
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/James_Allen_(author)
This blog is part of a book called "You’re So Lucky!" by Jesvir Mahil. To read more, subscribe to the free Success Newsletter )
Ms Jesvir Mahil
www.jesvir.com
London, UK
Friday, January 01, 2010
Lucky people live life driven by purpose.
“If you don’t know where you are going, any path will do.” Lewis Carroll
If you have read Lewis Carroll’s “Alice in Wonderland”, you will probably recognise the quote above and the following excerpt from the book:
“One day Alice came to a fork in the road and saw a Cheshire cat in a tree. "Which road do I take?" she asked. "Where do you want to go?" was his response. "I don't know," Alice answered. "Then," said the cat, "it doesn't matter."
Lucky, fortunate people usually have a clear purpose in life and they look for signs steering them in the right direction. Unlucky people on the other hand, often complain about not getting anywhere in life. They respond in a similar way to confused young Alice when asked about where they actually want to be or go.
How clear are you about the following questions:
What is your purpose? Who are you? Where are you going? How are you planning on getting there?
Having a clear sense of purpose may serve to attract more luck into your life. If you know where you are heading, it will be a lot easier for life to present the signposts that will help you get there.
Inner Drives, Passion & Dreams
If you are uncertain about your purpose in life, pay attention to the things that inspire you; notice the things you love; be aware of what gives you joy in life; what evokes your passion for life? What motivates and drives you? What do you value in life? What are your dreams?
For example, do you value freedom or security? If you value freedom rather than security, life may support you in travelling around the world independently but your plans to buy a house, on the other hand, may not be so successful. Some things may fall into your lap easily and effortlessly and others fail to materialise despite your hardest efforts and struggles. Perhaps the former are in alignment with your values and the latter, on the other hand, conflict with your highest values. For example if you value truth more than success, you will fail to get the job or stay for long in a job that compromises your integrity. It may seem a stroke of “bad luck” that you didn’t get the job or you got made redundant, but in fact, life is supporting your true values even though you may not be fully aware of them.
Your dreams must be your own dreams and not the dreams of your loved ones, which is one of the reasons that our most cherished dreams fail to materialise. We have to learn to create our own dreams. A mustard seed will never grow up to be an oak tree, regardless of how well it is nourished or how many years it has grown. Lives are often wasted trying to be someone else; living someone else’s dream and comparing our lives with the lives of others when there is no real comparison to be made.
How do you know that your dreams are your own? Who do you compare your inner life with? How does this help or hinder your own journey through life?
Some of your goals and ambitions will naturally be inspired by external circumstances and the environment in which you have lived. If your parents lived in poverty, you may be driven by the need to have a better standard of living and you may define your purpose in life to establish a life of comfort for your children.
One of the differences between lucky, successful people and those who consider themselves to be unlucky or unfortunate is the capacity to think and plan ahead. Those who invest in their own education, clearly have a different strategy for expressing their purpose in life.
What do you hope to achieve in your lifetime?
How will you be remembered?
What legacy do you intend to leave?
How will you uncover your deepest purpose, passion and driving force in life?
By living a life driven by purpose, like lucky people do, you will increase your chances of finding the signposts guiding and directing you to where you believe your destiny to be.
(This is part of a book called "You’re So Lucky!" by Jesvir Mahil. To read more, subscribe to the free Success Newsletter )
Ms Jesvir Mahil
www.jesvir.com
December 2009, London, UK
“If you don’t know where you are going, any path will do.” Lewis Carroll
If you have read Lewis Carroll’s “Alice in Wonderland”, you will probably recognise the quote above and the following excerpt from the book:
“One day Alice came to a fork in the road and saw a Cheshire cat in a tree. "Which road do I take?" she asked. "Where do you want to go?" was his response. "I don't know," Alice answered. "Then," said the cat, "it doesn't matter."
Lucky, fortunate people usually have a clear purpose in life and they look for signs steering them in the right direction. Unlucky people on the other hand, often complain about not getting anywhere in life. They respond in a similar way to confused young Alice when asked about where they actually want to be or go.
How clear are you about the following questions:
What is your purpose? Who are you? Where are you going? How are you planning on getting there?
Having a clear sense of purpose may serve to attract more luck into your life. If you know where you are heading, it will be a lot easier for life to present the signposts that will help you get there.
Inner Drives, Passion & Dreams
If you are uncertain about your purpose in life, pay attention to the things that inspire you; notice the things you love; be aware of what gives you joy in life; what evokes your passion for life? What motivates and drives you? What do you value in life? What are your dreams?
For example, do you value freedom or security? If you value freedom rather than security, life may support you in travelling around the world independently but your plans to buy a house, on the other hand, may not be so successful. Some things may fall into your lap easily and effortlessly and others fail to materialise despite your hardest efforts and struggles. Perhaps the former are in alignment with your values and the latter, on the other hand, conflict with your highest values. For example if you value truth more than success, you will fail to get the job or stay for long in a job that compromises your integrity. It may seem a stroke of “bad luck” that you didn’t get the job or you got made redundant, but in fact, life is supporting your true values even though you may not be fully aware of them.
Your dreams must be your own dreams and not the dreams of your loved ones, which is one of the reasons that our most cherished dreams fail to materialise. We have to learn to create our own dreams. A mustard seed will never grow up to be an oak tree, regardless of how well it is nourished or how many years it has grown. Lives are often wasted trying to be someone else; living someone else’s dream and comparing our lives with the lives of others when there is no real comparison to be made.
How do you know that your dreams are your own? Who do you compare your inner life with? How does this help or hinder your own journey through life?
Some of your goals and ambitions will naturally be inspired by external circumstances and the environment in which you have lived. If your parents lived in poverty, you may be driven by the need to have a better standard of living and you may define your purpose in life to establish a life of comfort for your children.
One of the differences between lucky, successful people and those who consider themselves to be unlucky or unfortunate is the capacity to think and plan ahead. Those who invest in their own education, clearly have a different strategy for expressing their purpose in life.
What do you hope to achieve in your lifetime?
How will you be remembered?
What legacy do you intend to leave?
How will you uncover your deepest purpose, passion and driving force in life?
By living a life driven by purpose, like lucky people do, you will increase your chances of finding the signposts guiding and directing you to where you believe your destiny to be.
(This is part of a book called "You’re So Lucky!" by Jesvir Mahil. To read more, subscribe to the free Success Newsletter )
Ms Jesvir Mahil
www.jesvir.com
December 2009, London, UK
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